Growing Pains

     I can't think of a single person that I've met who has had a perfect childhood and life.  Everyone faces their own set of challenges, hurdles, and expectations.  What I don't understand is that small percent of people who act like irresponsible, cowardly scumbags and use the excuse of their past.  "My mommy was mean and daddy loved me too much"  So then that person goes around manipulating people, throwing hair pulling tantrums, acts like a self entitled loser and blames everything that happens, including his/her own screw ups on that.  "My mommy died when I was 18, daddy is an drunk, and I never really got the chance to live like they do on 90210 (because apparently, that's how kids really live in high school)."  So they go out, do what they want, when they want, doesn't matter who gets hurt, what kind of attention is received as long as it's attention, and something that happened eons ago is to blame for it.  "My brother was a drug addict and trouble maker when I was growing up, so my parents spent all their time and energy on him."  So that entitles this person to lie, cheat, steal, cry, and blame everything on everyone else, since having such a rough childhood entitles them to zero accountability.  "Mommy was mean and daddy didn't care."  My personal favorite.  Do what you want, when you want, how you want, and when things get tough--just run away and hide in the nearest bottle of whiskey.  People will understand when they finally pull their head out of their ass and act like a grown up.  

      I swear, Freud would have a field day if he peeked into the childhoods of some of these losers.  Yet what I don't understand is this--how many people have survived their own versions of hell growing up, their own trials in life and still have the capacity to act like decent human beings?  What is it about that small group of people who feel so self-entitled, blameless, and just overall scum seem to think that because a few bad things happened, they aren't accountable for what they do?  It's called life.  Not everyone is dealt a winning hand, some worse than others, but at some point, people need to learn how to grow up, take responsibility for their own actions, face reality, and actually try being decent human beings who don't hide behind a few bad things that happened to them.  I almost feel sorry for those people.  Just not sorry enough to want them anywhere near me.  I may not have been dealt a stellar hand, but I do what I can to improve my life.  And I will never purposely crush, hurt, humiliate, or otherwise use another person to get where I want.  A little hard work and humility can go a very long way.